5 Tips For Getting Rid Of The First Date Nerves

Got the first date fidgets? Don't worry, it's natural. First dates tend to make all of us a bit jittery. We worry about things like “bad breath” and “body odor” and whether or not our dress makes our butt look fat.

We wonder whether or not we should laugh at his jokes (“Oh, no, how do I not giggle if he says something funny?”, “Does my laugh sound totally corny?”, “Maybe I should just keep my mouth shut...”) and we tend to expect the guys we're heading out with to know these things already, to know we're feeling more than a little self-conscious, especially since it is our “first date.”

Oddly enough, we also know confidence feels synonymous with power, and the more confident we are, the less we need to worry about all those little things that tend to make us nervous about first dates.

So, to help you into a state of confidence about yourself and out of those horrid “first date fidgets,” I've put together five short, worry-busting confidence boosters you can try before your next first night out.

Tip #1: Add a bit of boost to your regular hygiene regimen by putting some sweet scents in your bath. Indulge in a good long soak early enough on the night of your date to give the fragrance time to soak into your skin. Your body will carry the scent throughout the date.

Tip #2: Instead of worrying about your clothes, pick an outfit you feel comfortable in, one that makes you feel good about yourself, and whether or not your butt looks fat will be the last thing on your mind.

Tip #3: Be you. Don't try to hamper or hinder your normal state. Just be yourself. If the guy you're with doesn't appreciate your originality, then he's probably not the guy for you anyway. You want a man who will love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be when you're with him, right? So always be who you are.

Tip #4: Talk before the date. If you have certain expectations about your upcoming date, you need to make sure the person you're going to be with knows what those expectations are. For example, if you feel uncomfortable around crowds and prefer to dine in a more private setting, he needs to know this before he makes reservations.

Tip #5: Enjoy yourself. First dates aren't wedding ceremonies, so you aren't being locked into a commitment for the rest of your life based on this one night out. Remember that, and just allow yourself to have a good time. You might enjoy yourself so much you're tempted to repeat the experience!

Discover the First Step to Finding Your Soul Mate

“By being clear about what you want and no longer contradicting it with opposing thoughts, you will enable the Laws of the Universe to do their work, and you will not feel a need to offer so much action to compensate for inappropriate thought. By offering deliberate thought, you will harness the power of the Universe, and it will require far less time for you to accomplish much, much more.” – The Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks

The first place I start with my clients when they want to start manifesting their dream of finding a soul mate is in discovering exactly what it is they want, and noticing their likes and dislikes. You have to know what you want before you can find it.

So begin here. Know what you want… what makes you feel good? What do you love? What do you like to do? Sometimes we get so busy doing for others, we forget to do what makes us happy.

It’s impossible to create and manifest what you want in life if you’re only taking care of everyone else’s needs and none of your own.

Sit down with a pen and paper and really take some time to write down the things you love to do and then try to start finding ways to incorporate them into your life. The law of attraction works best when we’re happy and joyful already… then manifesting a soul mate is a breeze, because you're already living a great life.

Include what you want in a relationship and a soul mate and most importantly, how you want to feel when you're with him.

Visualize your vision… once you’ve discovered your likes and dislikes, you can start creating a vision for what your ideal life would look like. Write it down, make a vision board with wonderful pictures of what you would like to bring into your life, or just close your eyes and visualize what you desire.

Any and all of these things will help imprint your subconscious with your desires and the life you want to live… and once your subconscious believes it, the miracles start happening faster than you can imagine.

Treat yourself lovingly along the way… be patient with yourself as you start this journey. We’re all doing the very best we can at every moment, and that includes you. Take care of your body, drink plenty of water, treat yourself with the respect and kindness you would offer those you love. Treat yourself as you would want your soul mate to treat you. When we’re physically exhausted or not eating well or sleeping enough, it’s impossible to deliberately create our lives. We go into default mode and start reacting to life’s events, instead of being conscious creators.

Remember, you are a powerful creator. You can become the person you want to be, and live the life you desire, but it all starts with your taking care of yourself and putting attention on what you want to bring into your life. Then you can start the process of attracting all the wonderful things you deserve in life including your soul mate.

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About the Author -  Dawn Allen, CDC, CPTF, is a Love & Attraction Coach, Author, and founder of Inspired Heart Coaching. Dawn is a leading authority on love and relationships, and specializes in helping single women attract the love of their lives. Through her group and private coaching programs, she teaches you how to attract and create a deep, magical, and loving relationship by releasing patterns from the past. To learn more about Dawn, visit www.InspiredHeartCoaching.com and receive her "4 Secrets to Finding Your Soul Mate" E-book when you subscribe to her Secrets to Love Ezine, or email her at Dawn@InspiredHeartCoaching.com.